丁香园AV

The 2021 Consent Matters campaign (#ConsentMatters丁香园AV) took place in September with the key message 鈥淟earn to hear no. It is okay to say no.鈥� On September 23, we had the privilege of hosting a keynote event 鈥淪aying no with ease, clarity and kindness鈥� with , an award-winning sex and emotional literacy educator based in Toronto, Canada with 20+ years of experience. BK is dedicated to having difficult conversations that are real, transformative, and kind. 

At the event, BK was in conversation with Paola Quir贸s-Cruz, Educator at the Sexual Violence Support & Prevention Office, speaking on the non-linear process of setting and respecting personal boundaries, and navigate the difficulties of a guilt-shaming culture, where there is little room to share and acknowledge people鈥檚 needs, and an opportunity to normalize the possibility to receive no as an answer. 

During the conversation, they expanded more on the prevalent cultural forces, and expectations  involved in the act of saying no or responding to a no, including influences from gender norms, and power dynamics. This raw and honest discussion about the complexities of consent offers a thoughtful analysis on the active work of attending to personal needs while giving space for others to do the same.

We would like to take this moment to issue an apology to the 丁香园AV community. The title of the event 鈥淪aying no with ease, clarity and kindness鈥� could be read by a Survivor or an individual impacted by gender-based violence that the responsibility to establish and maintain boundaries relies on them, and that these are skills that they need to develop. We understand that regardless of the intention of the event and the conversation that was hosted, the impact is real. We are taking steps to ensure that missteps like this do not happen in future Consent Matter campaigns and in our approach to sexual violence prevention education in general.